Wednesday, 6 October 2010

I Am Gobsmacked...

I was catching up on my blog reading list tonight and after I read this post by Nicolavc86, I was completely gobsmacked to learn that there are forums dedicated to trashing gurus.  I had no idea such things existed! I am not going to post links to these sites because they don't deserve any more attention, but I am aware that this post is highlighting the fact that they are there BUT I felt so strongly about it that I just wanted to vent on here.

First of all, after everything that has happened with my dad this week, after realising how short life really is, I just can't get my head around the fact that there are so many people out there on the internet who waste their lives spewing venimous, absurd and slanderous accusations, commenting on the physical appearance of the gurus in an extremely personal and spiteful way and generally launching a full scale character assasination on their chosen hate victim. I actually became quite upset reading some of the comments and I closed the window down after reading a handful.

I became so upset because it's hard to fathom that there are people out there with such hate inside them, such bitterness and the audacity to post such awful thing about someone they have never met before. I mean, just because these gurus are bloggers and youtubers and give us an insight into their lives DOES NOT mean that it's ok to tear them to pieces. I'm all for free speech but there's a big difference between giving an opinion and picking someone apart unnecessarily. I've always been of the opinion that if you don't have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut and if they don't like someone's YouTube videos or blog, then they can always unsubscribe! No one is forcing them to read or watch this stuff! That's what really gets me.

With that in mind, I can only come to one conclusion...that these people relish ripping people to shreds, in the vain attempt to "bring them down a notch or two". The only person they have brought down is themselves, because any decent person reading those forums would be as appalled as I was. These people take pleasure in critisising gurus who, on the whole, are doing what they do to help and advise people.  If you think someone is annoying, has no style or rubbish hair...fine, but keep it to yourself.  Why would you want to set out to intentionally hurt someone's feelings? You don't know what might be going on in their lives, they may have stress to deal with and you may be contributing to that....that's not big and it's not clever.

I can tell you something, if these people said the things they have to a REAL person in the street, they all would have been lamped by now! No one would stand for that kind of behaviour in the real world and that's why the majority of these people hide behind anonymous profiles, because they know what they are doing is wrong, it's not ok, it's not justified and they are scared of the backlash they may create if people knew who they really were.  Their inboxes would be full to the brim with protests and angry emails.  Hate breeds hate and that's a sad fact of life.  But these people should remember this famous quote about jealousy..."If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang".

I am so sick and tired of seeing comments like "who does she think she is?"...."her face is lop-sided"..."she needs to get a better camera".  Well...if they think they are so perfect then why don't they start up their own channel? I'll tell you why...because not many people would follow a blog or channel that continuously trashes other people and encourages hate towards other human beings.  Who wants that kind of negativity in their lives? I have always believed that you get back what you give out.  If you are a happy and positive person, you will generally get that back.  If you are a jealous and hateful person, then you will wither inside and be a very lonely person. 

You're not going to like EVERY guru on here or YouTube but keep in mind that they are human beings too and they have feelings.  So people should think twice before they post a negative comment because their words could make a bad day worse for that person.

What I'm really trying to say is that I wish those people would just grow up, get a life and stop being so petty. 

Rant over.

12 comments:

  1. I completely agree with everything you've said. I've just been on the site and am so angry. Slagging people off behind a computer screen? Something must be wrong with these people. & the points are so pathetic; 'Her skin looks weird' 'She's sooo old at 30' 'She only wears pink lip products' I mean come on! Are they serious?!
    Pathetic people.
    x

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  2. I agree its vile.

    Bitchiness and jealousy is just the worse.

    I hate jealous people its one thing that really annoys me!

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  3. It's really kind of sad. These girls (and maybe boys) are so incredibly unhappy with themselves that they make hating on others a hobby. Cheers to healthy self-esteem!

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  4. Not much to add, because I totally agree with you here! I always wonder what these anonymous losers must be like in real life. I can't think of a single person in my life who would spend time trying to spread so much hate... they must be hermits or something!

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  5. What makes me laugh about them is the way they justify their actions.

    I read some HORRIBLE things on there about a blogger who I have met, she was really nice and they're going on as if she's a spoilt brat who doesn't deserve all the followers she has.

    They pick on the smallest things to complain about, I mean come on? Is your life really that empty that you have to compulsively follow someone's blog, youtube and twitter to pick up on small things they say and/or do?

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  6. It's really sad. We should pay no attention to those types of people!

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  7. The internet is full of people who are vile, and most of them behave the way they do because they are jealous and have no life. These people thrive on getting a response too. In real life half of those people wouldnt say the things they type sat behind a computer because they really dont have the guts. Just dont let these saddo's get in the way of what you girls do! You're all gorgeous, intelligent women. Xx

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  8. I was so sorry to hear about your dad, I hope everything is going well for you! I'll never understand the extremely harsh comments about gurus...

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  9. This is pathetic and disgusting. It's quite sad that people don't have anything better to do than comment on petty things about people who are simply sharing their passion. If you don't like a guru, don't watch them or read their blogs. It's that simple. I'm not sure if all these comments were made by younger people or not, but one thing is for sure, the immaturity level is appalling. This unnecessary cruelty needs to stop, and quite frankly these people need to learn to be a little more kind. The criticism is cruel, harsh and again, entirely unnecessary. Commenting on physical features is beyond a low blow as well. It sounds to me that some people need to seriously grow up.

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  10. You took the words right out of my mouth!
    I was ready to blog about how angry I was after reading Tali's post this morning.
    Honestly, it's pathetic that people spend what appears to be all of their time, sitting in front of a computer judging and picking on others.

    Bullying is unacceptable, in any form. But there's something even more cowardly about people who sit in front of a computer to do it. It's pathetic.

    There are enough horrible things going on in this world without people like this spewing out hate on the internet for people they don't even know.

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  11. Wow that site is vicious!! Of course there are going to be people you don't like on YouTube for whatever reason but, as others have said, don't watch their videos!! They seem to have forgotten that these are people and making those kind of vile comments could really hurt them. I just hope the guru's mentioned know that those people mean nothing and that for every one person hating there are 10 people loving.

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  12. I totally agree with this. Some people are so sick. They really should get a hobby or something more productive to do with their time other than trash on people who are putting themselves out there in hopes of helping others and to share their passion. It seems like for every big thing out there, there is a community specifically for trashing it. I think it is ridiculous that they made a whole forum just for trashing gurus though. Maybe those people should post videos and see how they fare at taking the criticism they dish out to others.

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